Welcome, welcome, dear human, on this beautiful new day indeed. We are so pleased to be able to speak with you again, and this time we’d like to talk about personal growth and how you can expand into more of what you are or what you want to become.
Do you choose to change?
As you know, you have a choice in everything. You can decide what you want to be, who you want to be. When you have certain traits you don’t like, you have the ability to change those.
And it’s actually easy to change yourself, although most people would disagree with us.
The usual approach of changing yourself or your habits, is that it’s hard, that you’re stuck in the ideas and programming from your childhood, that your psyche isn’t working the way you want, because you’re so tied to whatever ideas and beliefs you hold.
Getting out of an addiction or ‘bad habit’
We see it all the time when people try to get rid of an addiction or what they view as a ‘bad habit’.
Let’s say you smoke. And we want to emphasize that we are not judging anyone smoking, or drinking, or eating whatever it is they’re eating.
We have no judgment, ever, we just want you to understand the process of personal growth in relation to certain habits.
So let’s say you smoke, and you want to quit. For most people the first thing they think is ‘it’s going to be hard’, or ‘I hope I can do it, last time I didn’t manage to quit’…
By thinking thoughts like that, you’re limiting yourself and you’re blocking your growth into something different, growth into being a non-smoker.
What you’re focusing on is being a smoker, and wanting to get rid of it. You’re in resistance, resisting who and what you are and what you do.
Step one: stop judging yourself
So the first thing we would say you would have to do, is stop judging yourself. Love yourself exactly as you are.
Smoking, drinking, eating, doing drugs, whatever it is you’re doing that you don’t like about yourself. Stop the dislike, and start loving yourself, wholly, fully, completely and unconditional.
That is your starting point for personal growth, for expansion into more of what you truly are. You are love, that is your essence, and what you as a human are doing doesn’t matter so much.
So begin with self-love, allow yourself to relax, to just be who you are. Without judgment, without criticism of your behavior and actions.
When you’re relaxed and in a state of loving yourself, accepting yourself, then you may want to take a next step. But do it without having strings attached, without expectations.
Step two: see and feel what you want to be
Just begin to see yourself as a non-smoker, a non-drinker, a non-user, a moderate eater… whatever it is you want to be, see yourself as that and feel into it.
Feel and see yourself as exactly that which you want to be.
The key to personal growth is to allow yourself to be who you are, and to see yourself, your ‘future self’, as that which you are looking forward to become.
When you can see yourself healthy, whole and happy, without the habits you don’t like, you are beginning to reprogram your brain, you will create new neural pathways in your brain.
And by visualizing on a daily basis, already feeling what it would feel like to be that new you, coming from the basis of loving yourself, without resistance and without expectations, you will begin to change.
Personal growth takes time, allow the process
And don’t be disappointed when you’re grabbing a cigarette or crave a drink. Know that it’s a process. It’s not a quick fix, it’s not a one-day-and-it’s-done solution.
No, it does take a bit of determination, but like anything that grows, personal growth too is a process.
It’s like a plant, that is preparing itself during the winter to open up and grow again, to sprout again, when the days are getting lighter and warmer.
By the time it’s spring, the leaves are opening, and the blossoms come out. It’s a process. It takes months for an apple tree, or any fruit tree, to grow blossoms and eventually have the blossoms turn into fruit.
Be patient and practice daily
So be patient with yourself. There are no quick fixes that are lasting.
Take the time, daily, and it can be just five minutes a day, to see yourself healthy and happy.
See in your mind’s eye what you are doing, how you behave without the habits you want to let go of. See yourself talking with other people, feeling confident, loving who you are, now and then.
We know you can do it, and all you have to do is quiet your mind a bit to stop the judgment, and allow the self-love to flourish. There lies the key to change.
You got this!
We love you, we love you, we love you. We are The Wisdom, and with that, we are complete.
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