Welcome, welcome, dear human, on this beautiful new day. We are so pleased to speak with you again, and we’d like to talk about feeling guilty.
Can you say ‘no’?
Many people are living life in a way where they tend to take care of everyone else but themselves.
We know you might think it’s the other way around, that people are more selfish than ever before, but really, there are so many people looking after other people, taking care of business for others, and neglect their own needs and even their own health.
Today we will speak a bit more about that, because we think it’s important for you to look at your own behavior, to check in whether or not you are falling into the trap of feeling guilty.
Because when you do, chances are that you are doing things for other people, saying ‘yes’ to questions or requests for help and going against your own feelings.
Only because you don’t want to be judged by someone else. You don’t want to say ‘no’ and disappoint someone. Or say ‘no’, and come across as being selfish.
Or saying ‘no’ would make you feel like you are not kind, not helpful. Or you simply have an issue with saying ‘no’. Which is something that you are definitely not alone in.
When you take care of others better than yourself
Whatever the case may be, when you are taking care of others more than you take care of yourself, there is an underlying issue.
And that issue might be different for each person, but usually it’s something pretty similar. Usually it’s coming from feeling guilty.
When you are feeling guilt, you have this nagging feeling that you’re doing something wrong by choosing yourself above someone else. You have an issue with self-worth.
We’ve spoken more about that topic, and it’s closely related to shame and feeling guilty.
Because when you have a low sense of self-worth, when you diminish your value, you tend to feel guilty about not doing what other people ask you to.
You may not realize it, but you are prone to become someones ‘doormat’. You risk becoming someone they easily walk over and disregard, never taking your needs into account.
So, what can you do about this when you are someone that is often feeling guilty? What if you’re doing things out of guilt, instead of doing it because you really want to and love doing it?
Discover your value
The solution is actually pretty simple. Start valuing yourself more. See how much you’ve already done for other people, see how beautiful that is and see the value of that.
The value that you have given already through the things that you’ve done for others.
But here’s the trap: when you haven’t done a lot, or you still think that you haven’t done enough, we want you to be aware that your value or worth never depends on the things you do or how you act!
No, definitely not!
Because you are a sparkle of Source, you are a multidimensional, divine being, a being of Light, living a human experience, and that alone is enough to be of infinite value!
There’s nothing for you to do, there’s nothing to achieve to gain a certain value, or to become more valuable to yourself or others.
You already are infinitely valuable, because of who you are. Period.
Giving from love, not from feeling guilty
Now, that may have to sink in a bit more, to understand your worth and your value, but when it sinks in, you will finally understand that there is no need to feel guilty about saying ‘no’ to anyone.
You are not here to provide anything for other people.
Yes, you can and you will help others, but only if it’s choiceless and only when you are certain that this is what you want to do. Coming from your heart, not from feeling guilty!
We hope this gives you some help to let go of feeling guilty when you think, or even know, that people are counting on you, but you don’t feel like doing what they’re asking.
Whenever that’s the case, you are allowed to politely decline the request and do your own thing.
Remember to always take care of you first. After that there is time and space enough to start taking care of others if you so wish to!
We love you so very much, and we will speak with you again very soon.
We are The Wisdom, and with that, we are complete.